Saturday, January 5, 2008
What are the WEAK characteristics of FILIPINOS?
While there are positive Filipino traits, of course there are also negative behavioral traits. Let us discuss them:
Extreme Personalism. Filipinos have a personalistic world view. It means that there is no seperation between an objective task and emotional involvement. Because of this, Filipinos have difficulty dealing with all forms of impersonal activities. As such, Filipinos are uncomfortable with bureaucracy, with rules and regulations, and with standard operating procedures. As a result, we have personal contact in any transactions and these are hard to turn down. Preference in giving work or service delivery is given to family, kamag-anak, friends, compadre, and other connections. Thus, extreme personalism leads to nepotism, lagayan, croyism and worst, to graft and corruption.
Extreme family centeredness. Our excessive concern for the family makes us ardently loyal that the larger community is neglected. This leads to factionalism, patronage and political dynasties. Thus, there is lack of concern for the common and this acts as a barrier to national conciousness.
Lack of Discipline. The Filipinos' lack of discipline comes in different forms namely:
1. we lack patience and are unable to delay gratification or reward, resulting in the use of short-cuts, in skirting the rules (as in Palusot Syndrome).
2. we are prone to commit ningas cogon, starting out project with full enthusiasm and interest which suddenly die down leaving the project unfinished.
3. we have a relaxed attitude towrd time which manifests lack of precision.
These negative traits often lead to wasteful work system, violation of rules, inefficiency and lack of commitment.
Passivity and Lack of initiative. Filipinos are generally seen as passive and lacking in initiative. We wait to be told what has to be done. We tend to show strong reliance on others like government and other leaders to do things for us. We also tend to show submissiveness to those in authority and do not raise issues or to question decisions, thus, we are oppressed and explioted. They tend to show no sense of urgency about any problem. Sometimes we are simply complacent.
Colonial mentality. Filipinos manifest colonial mentality in two dimensions:
1. lack of patriotism or an active awareness, appreciation and love for the philippines.
2. actual preference for things that are foreign.
Our Filipino culture is characterized by an openess-adapting and incorporating the foreign elements into our own image. Thus, its result is cultural vagueness or weakness that makes filipinos very susceptible to the total acceptance of modern man's culture which is often Western.
More so, manifestation of this Filipino colonial mentality is the alienation of the elite from their roots and from the masses. We too have basic feeling of national inferiority that makes us filipinos wanting to relate as equals of Westerners.
Kanya-kanya Syndrome. This traits refers to the selfish, self-serving attitudes that generates a feeling of envy and competitiveness towards others, paticularly one's peers who seem to have gained some status or prestige. A good example to show this is the talangka or crab mentality using the power of tsismis, intrigue, and destructive criticism to pull others down. This traits is also observed in the lack of sense of service amomg people in the government agencies. The public is made to fell that the service from the offices and from the civil servants is an extra work that has to be paid for. As a result, this kanya-kanya syndrome dampens cooperation, unity and community spirit.
Lack of self-analysis and self-reflection. We Filiponos, have the tendency to be flighty and to manifest superficial personality. This means that in times of problems, we tend not to be serious in looking deeper into the problems. We tend to lack of analysis and reflection.
Related to this characteristic is the filipino emphasis on form (maporma) rather than substance. The desire to use flashy sets, signature clothes, flamboyant accessories and other bongga features to reinforce porma.
Likewise, our lack of self-analysis and focus on forms is reinforced by an educational system that is more form than substance.
Extreme Personalism. Filipinos have a personalistic world view. It means that there is no seperation between an objective task and emotional involvement. Because of this, Filipinos have difficulty dealing with all forms of impersonal activities. As such, Filipinos are uncomfortable with bureaucracy, with rules and regulations, and with standard operating procedures. As a result, we have personal contact in any transactions and these are hard to turn down. Preference in giving work or service delivery is given to family, kamag-anak, friends, compadre, and other connections. Thus, extreme personalism leads to nepotism, lagayan, croyism and worst, to graft and corruption.
Extreme family centeredness. Our excessive concern for the family makes us ardently loyal that the larger community is neglected. This leads to factionalism, patronage and political dynasties. Thus, there is lack of concern for the common and this acts as a barrier to national conciousness.
Lack of Discipline. The Filipinos' lack of discipline comes in different forms namely:
1. we lack patience and are unable to delay gratification or reward, resulting in the use of short-cuts, in skirting the rules (as in Palusot Syndrome).
2. we are prone to commit ningas cogon, starting out project with full enthusiasm and interest which suddenly die down leaving the project unfinished.
3. we have a relaxed attitude towrd time which manifests lack of precision.
These negative traits often lead to wasteful work system, violation of rules, inefficiency and lack of commitment.
Passivity and Lack of initiative. Filipinos are generally seen as passive and lacking in initiative. We wait to be told what has to be done. We tend to show strong reliance on others like government and other leaders to do things for us. We also tend to show submissiveness to those in authority and do not raise issues or to question decisions, thus, we are oppressed and explioted. They tend to show no sense of urgency about any problem. Sometimes we are simply complacent.
Colonial mentality. Filipinos manifest colonial mentality in two dimensions:
1. lack of patriotism or an active awareness, appreciation and love for the philippines.
2. actual preference for things that are foreign.
Our Filipino culture is characterized by an openess-adapting and incorporating the foreign elements into our own image. Thus, its result is cultural vagueness or weakness that makes filipinos very susceptible to the total acceptance of modern man's culture which is often Western.
More so, manifestation of this Filipino colonial mentality is the alienation of the elite from their roots and from the masses. We too have basic feeling of national inferiority that makes us filipinos wanting to relate as equals of Westerners.
Kanya-kanya Syndrome. This traits refers to the selfish, self-serving attitudes that generates a feeling of envy and competitiveness towards others, paticularly one's peers who seem to have gained some status or prestige. A good example to show this is the talangka or crab mentality using the power of tsismis, intrigue, and destructive criticism to pull others down. This traits is also observed in the lack of sense of service amomg people in the government agencies. The public is made to fell that the service from the offices and from the civil servants is an extra work that has to be paid for. As a result, this kanya-kanya syndrome dampens cooperation, unity and community spirit.
Lack of self-analysis and self-reflection. We Filiponos, have the tendency to be flighty and to manifest superficial personality. This means that in times of problems, we tend not to be serious in looking deeper into the problems. We tend to lack of analysis and reflection.
Related to this characteristic is the filipino emphasis on form (maporma) rather than substance. The desire to use flashy sets, signature clothes, flamboyant accessories and other bongga features to reinforce porma.
Likewise, our lack of self-analysis and focus on forms is reinforced by an educational system that is more form than substance.
Saturday, December 29, 2007
Friday, December 28, 2007
What are the STRENGTH characteristics of FILIPINOS?
What are the Strengths of the Filipinos?
According to the study. these are the some common Strengths of the Filipino Character:
1. Pakikipagkapwa-tao. is demonstrated in the Filipinos' ability to empathize with the others in helping and being generous in time of needs as in pakikiramay; in extending mutual assistance as in bayanihan; and being hospitable not only to fellow Filipinos but especially to the foreigners by giving the best room or food.
As Filipinos, we are open to others, feel one with others,regard others with dignity, and respect them as fellow human beings.
Because of pakikipagkapwa-tao, Filipinos develop that sensitivity to the quality of smooth interpersonal relationship. If our relationship with others is satisfactory, we are secure and happy. Filipinos too, develop that closeness to one another.
2. Family Oriented. What is very evident in the filipinos is the closely-knit families that demonstrate their deep love for every memeber such as the spouse, children, parents, siblings, grandparents and other relatives. One's family is the source of personal identity, emotional and material support, and one's main commitment and responsibility.
Genuine concern for the family is manifested in the honor and respect given to the parents and elders, in the support and care extended to children and in the great sacrifices one endures for the welfare of the family. Filipinos, in general, do take care of their aging parents at home.
This family orientation makes every member develop a feeling of belongingness and sense of safety and security.
3.Joy and Humor. Being cheerful and fun-loving are some of the strengths of the filipinos in addressing life, like when we are up or down. This pleasant disposition of having a sense of humor such as laughing at ourselves and our mistakes is an important coping mechanism that adds to the filipino charm and keeps our spirit going.
This sense of joy and humor is observed in the Filipinos' love for socials, celebrations, fiestas and in serious public issues injecting political satire. Thus, Filipinos have the strong capacity to survive and are emotionally balanced.
4.Flexibility, Adaptability and Creativity. Very evident in us Filipinos is our great capacity to adjust and to adapt to circumstances and any eventualities that come our way.
We are also creative, imaginative, resourceful and have the ability to improvise and produce something from indigenous or any materials available as a source of income and entrepreneurship. Thus, trait also generates productivity innovations and survival for some.
The Filipino flexibility and adaptability are manifested in our kababayans who are seen in all parts of the world. We can go to any corner of the world and we will always see a Filipino.
5.Hard work and Industry. The Filipinos' desire to improve one's standard of living and to live a decent life matched with proper working conditions and motivations makes them work hard. This trait is very evident in Filipinos who would take the risk to work to abroad taking two to three jobs at a time. Again, the result is entrepreneurship and survival despite poverty for aothers.
6.Faith and Religiosity. Filipinos are pre-dominantly Christians if not Catholics. We have deep faith in God and are religious. These traits are very much seen in our daily life. An example of our deep faith in God is when bad luck comes our way, we easily understand and genuinely accept this reality in the context of God's will and plan.
Religiosity is also observed in daily life among the Filipinos. Before any activity takes place in school or any public gathering, it is always preceeded by prayers. We always thank God for our success and call upon Him for mercy or forgiveness.
Having this faith and bieng religious spell out optimism, courage, inner peace and the willingness to accept tragedy and death.
7. Ability to Survive. Filipinos are survivors and are resilient. We have the great capability to surpass all sad experiences and recover easily from difficult times. This is manifested in the Filipinos who bravely live through the harshest economic, physical, and social circumstances. Example of crises where Filipinos are survivors and surviving are the Mt. Pinatubo disaster, 1990 earthquake, typhoons , Asian financial crisis and many more. It is the prove thatfilipinos are Great Survivors.
According to the study. these are the some common Strengths of the Filipino Character:
1. Pakikipagkapwa-tao. is demonstrated in the Filipinos' ability to empathize with the others in helping and being generous in time of needs as in pakikiramay; in extending mutual assistance as in bayanihan; and being hospitable not only to fellow Filipinos but especially to the foreigners by giving the best room or food.
As Filipinos, we are open to others, feel one with others,regard others with dignity, and respect them as fellow human beings.
Because of pakikipagkapwa-tao, Filipinos develop that sensitivity to the quality of smooth interpersonal relationship. If our relationship with others is satisfactory, we are secure and happy. Filipinos too, develop that closeness to one another.
2. Family Oriented. What is very evident in the filipinos is the closely-knit families that demonstrate their deep love for every memeber such as the spouse, children, parents, siblings, grandparents and other relatives. One's family is the source of personal identity, emotional and material support, and one's main commitment and responsibility.
Genuine concern for the family is manifested in the honor and respect given to the parents and elders, in the support and care extended to children and in the great sacrifices one endures for the welfare of the family. Filipinos, in general, do take care of their aging parents at home.
This family orientation makes every member develop a feeling of belongingness and sense of safety and security.
3.Joy and Humor. Being cheerful and fun-loving are some of the strengths of the filipinos in addressing life, like when we are up or down. This pleasant disposition of having a sense of humor such as laughing at ourselves and our mistakes is an important coping mechanism that adds to the filipino charm and keeps our spirit going.
This sense of joy and humor is observed in the Filipinos' love for socials, celebrations, fiestas and in serious public issues injecting political satire. Thus, Filipinos have the strong capacity to survive and are emotionally balanced.
4.Flexibility, Adaptability and Creativity. Very evident in us Filipinos is our great capacity to adjust and to adapt to circumstances and any eventualities that come our way.
We are also creative, imaginative, resourceful and have the ability to improvise and produce something from indigenous or any materials available as a source of income and entrepreneurship. Thus, trait also generates productivity innovations and survival for some.
The Filipino flexibility and adaptability are manifested in our kababayans who are seen in all parts of the world. We can go to any corner of the world and we will always see a Filipino.
5.Hard work and Industry. The Filipinos' desire to improve one's standard of living and to live a decent life matched with proper working conditions and motivations makes them work hard. This trait is very evident in Filipinos who would take the risk to work to abroad taking two to three jobs at a time. Again, the result is entrepreneurship and survival despite poverty for aothers.
6.Faith and Religiosity. Filipinos are pre-dominantly Christians if not Catholics. We have deep faith in God and are religious. These traits are very much seen in our daily life. An example of our deep faith in God is when bad luck comes our way, we easily understand and genuinely accept this reality in the context of God's will and plan.
Religiosity is also observed in daily life among the Filipinos. Before any activity takes place in school or any public gathering, it is always preceeded by prayers. We always thank God for our success and call upon Him for mercy or forgiveness.
Having this faith and bieng religious spell out optimism, courage, inner peace and the willingness to accept tragedy and death.
7. Ability to Survive. Filipinos are survivors and are resilient. We have the great capability to surpass all sad experiences and recover easily from difficult times. This is manifested in the Filipinos who bravely live through the harshest economic, physical, and social circumstances. Example of crises where Filipinos are survivors and surviving are the Mt. Pinatubo disaster, 1990 earthquake, typhoons , Asian financial crisis and many more. It is the prove thatfilipinos are Great Survivors.
Healing a BROKENHEART?
Here are some tips to heal a brokenhearted:
1.It's okay to grieve for a time. Seek support from your friends and family as you come to terms with the changes in your life.
2.Don't look at past relationships as failures, but rather as opportunities to learn and improve your relationship skills.
3.Don't worry that you're not in a relationship. Your value comes from who you are, not who you're with.
4.You don't have to be a recluse just because you aren't a couple. Treat yourself to an evening out doing something you enjoy. Take along a friend if it's not a solo activity.
5.Treat yourself to a special gift now and then. You are a special person and you deserve it.
6.There's more to life than romantic love. Take this opportunity to nurture your friends, family and self.
7.Take some time to reevaluate what you need in a relationship. Have you been choosing partners who are not capable of a loving and mature relationship?
8.Be willing to take another chance on love. Like they say, you can't win if you don't play.
9.Be a friend to yourself. If you care about yourself, the odds are better you will attract those you care about you too.
10.If you're finding it hard to let go of a relationship, you may need to seek counseling. An obsessive need to be with someone who no longer wants a relationship may be a sign of love addiction.
11.Avoid jumping into a rebound relationship. Take some time to work through all the issues from your previous one.
12.Don't try to get revenge. This will only slow your progress in healing from the hurt.
13.Forgive yourself. You can't change the past, but you can learn from your mistakes and not repeat them.
14.Forgive your partner. This doesn't mean that you are saying what happened is okay. What it means is cutting your losses and not investing any more time in something that hurts you.
Tips(activities)
1.Church groups, volunteer activities, and university lectures are just a few ideas for meeting new people in a safe environment.
2.Get a makeover, join a gym or start a diet. As you improve your health and appearance your self-esteem will rise.
3.Repeating daily affirmations can help you to regain confidence in yourself.
1.It's okay to grieve for a time. Seek support from your friends and family as you come to terms with the changes in your life.
2.Don't look at past relationships as failures, but rather as opportunities to learn and improve your relationship skills.
3.Don't worry that you're not in a relationship. Your value comes from who you are, not who you're with.
4.You don't have to be a recluse just because you aren't a couple. Treat yourself to an evening out doing something you enjoy. Take along a friend if it's not a solo activity.
5.Treat yourself to a special gift now and then. You are a special person and you deserve it.
6.There's more to life than romantic love. Take this opportunity to nurture your friends, family and self.
7.Take some time to reevaluate what you need in a relationship. Have you been choosing partners who are not capable of a loving and mature relationship?
8.Be willing to take another chance on love. Like they say, you can't win if you don't play.
9.Be a friend to yourself. If you care about yourself, the odds are better you will attract those you care about you too.
10.If you're finding it hard to let go of a relationship, you may need to seek counseling. An obsessive need to be with someone who no longer wants a relationship may be a sign of love addiction.
11.Avoid jumping into a rebound relationship. Take some time to work through all the issues from your previous one.
12.Don't try to get revenge. This will only slow your progress in healing from the hurt.
13.Forgive yourself. You can't change the past, but you can learn from your mistakes and not repeat them.
14.Forgive your partner. This doesn't mean that you are saying what happened is okay. What it means is cutting your losses and not investing any more time in something that hurts you.
Tips(activities)
1.Church groups, volunteer activities, and university lectures are just a few ideas for meeting new people in a safe environment.
2.Get a makeover, join a gym or start a diet. As you improve your health and appearance your self-esteem will rise.
3.Repeating daily affirmations can help you to regain confidence in yourself.
HeartBroken?
I'm genuinely sorry. I would not wish this pain and anguish on my worst enemy.
I wish I could wave a magic wand and everything would be fine. I wish I could give you a pill to take to cure the multitude of unwanted feelings and thoughts you are having. I'm sorry but I can't do those things.
What I have tried to do is gather together in one place as much information and ideas to help you cope and ultimately feel better. I've used a lot of the ideas myself and whilst I was feeling down I created this website to try to help others while helping myself.
I hope you will find comfort in knowing you are not alone and find some ways to help you patch up the pieces of your shattered heart.
Don't worry many men and women are experiencing heartbroken.
Eventhough it is hard, actually you can rid off it.
because I'am here to HELP you on that manner.
Take care and GOD BLESS!
I wish I could wave a magic wand and everything would be fine. I wish I could give you a pill to take to cure the multitude of unwanted feelings and thoughts you are having. I'm sorry but I can't do those things.
What I have tried to do is gather together in one place as much information and ideas to help you cope and ultimately feel better. I've used a lot of the ideas myself and whilst I was feeling down I created this website to try to help others while helping myself.
I hope you will find comfort in knowing you are not alone and find some ways to help you patch up the pieces of your shattered heart.
Don't worry many men and women are experiencing heartbroken.
Eventhough it is hard, actually you can rid off it.
because I'am here to HELP you on that manner.
Take care and GOD BLESS!
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